Sunlit Water

February 15, 2007

Some Bad News

Filed under: Personal — by teofilo @ 11:57 pm

My dad had a CT scan last week to check if the chemo was working.  The results came in a couple days ago, and they were not encouraging.  The chemo wasn’t really doing anything, so the oncologist decided to take him off of it.  He’s now gone through all the standard treatments for this kind of cancer, so my parents will be looking around for clinical trials.  There are some, but obviously that sort of thing is a longshot.

While my dad was out of the room getting unhooked and stuff, my mom asked the doctor for an estimated prognosis.  My dad doesn’t want to know that kind of thing, but my mom feels someone has to if only to know what the realistic next steps are.  The doctor said six months.

My mom called me that night to tell me about the CT results and that they would be looking into clinical trials, but she didn’t have the heart to tell me about the prognosis.  I could tell from her tone of voice that something was wrong, but I didn’t want to get into it right then.  She asked if I wanted to come home for Spring Break (I generally don’t because it’s a long way and I only have a week off); I said no.

She called me again tonight to tell me about the prognosis and ask again if I wanted to come home for Spring Break.  This time I said yes.

I’m still a bit shaken up, even though I knew that his condition had been worsening lately and I was halfway expecting something like this.  Hearing a specific number has a way of clarifying things, though.  This changes my life in a lot of ways, none too large but all adding up to different plans.  In addition to Spring Break, I think I’ll go home and stay for a while after graduation instead of looking for a job right away as I had planned.  I may also adjust my academic plans for the semester a bit to be in a better state to handle news from home.  It’s too early yet to know exactly what I’m going to do, but hearing this news has sort of crystallized a sense I’ve had for a while that I need to make some changes in my life.

Sometimes life is hard, but you just have to deal with it as it happens, I guess.



  1. So sorry to hear this, Teo. I really am.

    Comment by heebie-geebie — February 16, 2007 @ 12:02 am |Reply

  2. I’m so sorry. You finish in May, right? So that should give you some more time in the summer, at least.

    Comment by eb — February 16, 2007 @ 12:05 am |Reply

  3. Yeah, Commencement is Memorial Day Weekend. I can just go home after that, hold off on the job search for a while, and spend some time with my family. It sounds pretty nice, actually.

    Comment by teofilo — February 16, 2007 @ 12:12 am |Reply

  4. I’m sorry, Teo.

    I wonder if you might be able to arrange with your profs to do some of the end-of-semester work long-distance, if you explain the situation. I’d be willing to let someone do that.

    Comment by tosell — February 16, 2007 @ 12:47 am |Reply

  5. I’m sure I could, if it comes to that. The classes I’m taking this semester are pretty well-suited to that sort of thing.

    Comment by teofilo — February 16, 2007 @ 12:51 am |Reply

  6. I’m so sorry to hear this, Teo. It is very hard news. I wish you, your father, and the rest of your family peace and strength.

    Comment by DaveB — February 16, 2007 @ 1:17 am |Reply

  7. teo, i’m so, so sorry. please let us know if there is anything we can do. my thoughts are very much with you and your family.

    Comment by catherine — February 16, 2007 @ 2:45 am |Reply

  8. I’m very sorry, that’s awful news. Best wishes to you all.

    Comment by Matt F — February 16, 2007 @ 3:06 am |Reply

  9. I’m very sorry to hear this, teo.

    Comment by Matt W — February 16, 2007 @ 8:27 am |Reply

  10. I’m so sorry, Teo. I second Catherine on letting us know if there’s anything we can do, for example, if you ever wanted to talk, by whatever long distance medium seemed most congenial.

    Comment by Tia — February 16, 2007 @ 1:56 pm |Reply

  11. I feel for you.

    Comment by ~Macarena~ — February 16, 2007 @ 10:28 pm |Reply

  12. I’m so sorry for you, Teo. My thoughts will be with you and your family.

    Comment by Becks — February 17, 2007 @ 12:12 am |Reply

  13. I’m so sorry Teo. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers, for what they’re worth. Feel free to unload as much or little as you need.

    Comment by Saheli — February 17, 2007 @ 1:38 pm |Reply

  14. As everyone else said, if there’s anything I can do, just ask.

    Comment by LizardBreath — February 17, 2007 @ 5:24 pm |Reply

  15. A bit late, having not visited for awhile. But best wishes, teo. I’m sorry about this news.

    Comment by text — February 26, 2007 @ 9:34 pm |Reply

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